Hi and welcome to How to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back!
Although this is probably one of the worst times in your life, I’m really glad you’ve come here because I know I can help you!
I know you are feeling devastated. I know just how upset and miserable you are. I know you are wondering if you will ever be in love and happy again. And most of all I know you are wishing and hoping that maybe one day you and your boyfriend could get back together.
So what’s the secret to how to get my ex boyfriend back?
What you do during the next few days and weeks is crucial. In fact it’s so important that I want to help by giving you a few tips that will help you to focus on the future.
I know it will be really hard to do this. But stay with me here, because the future is the only thing you can change now if you want to get your boyfriend back.
Right now you are probably finding it hard to do even the smallest everyday things. Sleeping, working, eating, everything just seems too much effort; even getting out of bed in the morning is a struggle. But as hard as it is, you cannot afford to feel sorry for yourself now.
Any breakup is horribly painful, and your emotions are bound to be up and down at the moment (mainly down!), but you need to try and control them. Because this is the one time when following your instincts will always lead you astray.
So please take a few minutes to read what I have to say. I promise you that it can change your life.
Essential Rule To Get Your Boyfriend Back: Be Strong and Confident
Don’t let him see how heartbroken you are. I can’t stress enough how important this is: he mustn’t see you as needy and desperate, because that will only drive him further away. No man ever wanted a girl because he felt sorry for her – men just aren’t interested in winning the booby prize!
I know this sounds harsh, but it’s a basic fact of male psychology, and a smart girl who really means to get her boyfriend back will never forget it.
To get your boyfriend back you need to be operating from a position of strength. You need to look as if you are in control of your life, and are handling the breakup well. What you are aiming to do is to persuade him that he has made a mistake.
How to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back – Make Him Wish He’d Never Left You
It’s true – the secret of how to get my ex boyfriend back IS to make him believe that breaking up with you was a mistake.
And despite what your friends might say, you really CAN do it! However hopeless you’re feeling right now, just hold these 3 thoughts in your mind.
- You know your boyfriend is attracted to you – that’s why you were in a relationship! And that attraction can be re-ignited.
- Once you understand what REALLY went wrong, you will have a real chance of putting it right.
- Lots of people get back together after a breakup – it’s actually VERY COMMON, and it happens every day. Why not to you?
All that may sound too good to be true, especially if your breakup was protracted or bitter. And you may well have done things since the breakup that were foolish, rash and downright stupid. And that’s why you need to calm down and try to see things more clearly.
Have you been calling or texting him, trying to get him to listen to you and talk things over? Have you been trying to guilt him into taking you back? Have you been applying some other kind of pressure to try to get him to ‘see reason’?
Don’t Despair – You Can Fix This!
Almost everybody does this after a break up, often against their better judgement. And they’re right to feel it’s the wrong thing to do. But the only way to stop it is to understand why it’s only making things worse for you, and driving your boyfriend further away.
Right now, your relationship is making him feel imprisoned. And the more pressure you put on him, the more attractive the distant hills of freedom look to him, and the more determined he becomes to break free of his jail cell and escape. Every time you call or email him, he hears the sound of the jail door slamming behind him, and he feels trapped. So the most important thing for you to do right now is to stop chasing him.
Calm down and try and look at the situation more rationally. No matter how desperate you feel, it’s better to act with purpose from a place of reason if you want to have any real hope of getting him back.
The thing is, no matter how he’s acting, he really is hurting inside. And part of him is missing you and wondering if he’s made a mistake. But every time you call him, you silence the doubt in his mind and make him want to get away from you again. And he decides that the break up wasn’t a mistake after all: it was the right thing to do – at least for him.
Can You Get Him Back?
There’s a way to know how he really feels, and whether you have a real chance to get him back. Men deal with break ups quite differently from women, and it’s all tied up with their unwillingness to show their emotions. Even after breaking up with someone they love, men feel they have to be tough, to keep up a front and show the world that they are fine with it. But behind this facade, he is just trying to stop himself falling to pieces.
Is he angry with you? Anger is the only emotion that men feel OK about expressing, so the more upset he is the more likely he is to release it as anger.
Does he refuse to answer your calls? Is he telling you that it’s over for good? Does he say he wants you to leave him alone, and that he’s never coming back? These are all signs that he’s angry with you. And his anger shows that he still has strong feelings for you.
Is he making a big deal of enjoying himself without you? Is he putting on a big show of being fine about the break up, of moving on, and having fun now that he’s a free and single guy? Is he out all the time, drinking and socialising as though his life depended on it? Has his life turned into one long party, as if he’s forgotten you ever existed?
Why Guys Often Go Wild After a Breakup
These are all ways in which guys cope with break ups. He’s trying to convince himself that it’s great to be free again, that now he can do what he likes and have a great time partying every night. And most of all he wants to blot out the pain he’s feeling and convince himself that his life is moving on, that things are great and that he’s going to get through this.
Men find it difficult to understand and handle their emotions, and their usual way of coping is to try to block them out. You have to cut through all this BS and speak to his heart. You need to release the pressure on him so that he remembers the good things you had together. You need to give him time and space to miss you, so that he decides for himself that he wants you back. So how do you do this?
Give Him What He Really Wants
You have to give him what he really wants. An apology is not what he is looking for. He wants the spark, the memory of the woman he fell in love with, the one who was so much fun, so passionate and alive. You need to remind him of this woman, and not the one you have been recently who is so needy and demanding.
But don’t blame yourself for this. Everyone says and does the wrong thing after a painful breakup. What you need is to get fluent in guy-speak, which means getting help from someone who understands guys. You need to find out how to hit a man’s emotional ‘hot buttons’.
There’s lots of really good, relevant info to be found on this blog, which will give you some new perspectives on your breakup. There’s help with reasons why men leave relationships, and advice and insight on how to get my ex boyfriend back. And don’t miss my free report, ‘The Ex Files’, Getting Your Ex Back Made Easy, which you can download using the link in the right hand column of this website.
How to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back
Plan your next move carefully. You’ve probably made lots of mistakes up to now, but that’s normal, and you can get past that. The first thing to do is to take a look at what’s in the eBook Store, as one of those strategies will be the right one for you.
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If so, you could easily be wrong. All that anger and pain can be used as the building blocks of a new and better relationship. There are 3 things you need to know, three questions you need to ask about your breakup, which will tell you the real truth about your chances of getting back together. Find out what they are here.